B E Y O N D | S O R R Y Intimate relationships can bring up intense emotions. As such, conflicts can make it difficult for one to articulate and openly express their feelings. People tend to go to the extreme end of the spectrum by either repressing their feelings to avoid trouble by keeping quiet, avoiding topics that could bring up disagreement or venting their anger by saying hurtful things to their partner. What we are trying to share with you here is to help you find a balance between these two extremes. By recognising your deepest fear and changing the way you express your emotions. Step 1: Acknowledge your emotions by asking yourself questions like, how do I feel and why do I feel this way? Remember not to blame your partner for how you feel. You are 100% responsible for your own feelings. Step 2: The second step is an opportunity for you to connect with your partner on a deeper level by sharing with them the feelings you have acknowledged in step 1. By showing your vulnerability we can truly connect with one another. Step 3: Validate your partner’s emotion by listening with an open mind and not judging them or assuming you know how they feel, because that is always the first mistake that leads to misunderstanding, miscommunication and misinterpretation. Remember we are all different, as we live in this world based on our own Belief System (BS). And our BS are shaped by our past experiences. Do not be limited by your own BS, learn to be open minded, as it helps you to learn and grow. Admit that you aren’t all-knowing, therefore whatever truth you find might always have more to it than you realise. The truth is we can’t change how we feel when things happen, but we can change how we respond to these events that are happening around us every single day. Learn to shift your perception by changing your thoughts and you will change your world. //Wedding of Willy & Balerie 📸: @michael_goetomo 🎥: @yukeeong.official 🏨: @fullertonhotel
How our Deepest Fears Sabotage Our Relationships True love knows no boundaries, it makes us look inside ourselves and discover who we are. As such, we have to dig deep into our darkest fears and make us question our sanity. If we don’t learn to deal with our demons, they can get in the way of our desires. Unfortunately for most of us, the fear of not being good enough can persuade us to choose fear over love. Because most of us are accustomed to living in fear, hence we tend to choose feelings that are familiar as we feel safer this way. What if we tell you that you are wrong, and that this unconscious psychological mechanism we call: Defence Mechanism, has been sabotaging your relationship for the past few months/years. The truth is, we must learn to come to terms with our own feelings and not beat ourselves over situations we can’t control. Make peace with yourself and set yourself free from the past. Truth is, nobody is perfect, hence love can never be perfect. Therefore, do not live in fear of your relationship not being perfect. Rather, we should strive to accept our own flaws and forgive ourselves every single day. Finding love and peace within ourselves, living in gratitude, thus journeying our way towards self-fulfilment. Fear might make you feel safe and protected, but it can never bring you true happiness like what Love can do. If you have love in your heart, you are already blessed with the most powerful gift one can ever have. 3 Steps to overcome your fear TODAY 1. Be honest with yourself by acknowledging your fears and tell yourself that you aren’t perfect 2. Find a good time to speak to your partner about these fear, let them understand what you are going through 3. Talk to someone, if you are afraid of speaking to your partner then speak to a friend, last but not least you can always DM us! We’d love to help you in whatever way possible! We want to end this post by sharing this quote, “Fear cannot take what you do not give it.”- Christopher Coan. We definitely hope you’ve learnt something today and help you foster a stronger relationship! //Wedding of Alvin & Valerie Photographer: @michael_goetomo
The quality of your RELATIONSHIP is in direct proportion to the Quality of your COMMUNICATION The way we communicate with our partner and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our marriage. Therefore, it is essential to have an open communication in your marriage. The better we can communicate our needs, the more likely they will be fulfilled. Likewise, the better we understand our partner’s needs the easier we can help fulfil their needs. A lack in communication will result in frustration, when intentions get misinterpreted, messages get missed, needs aren’t met, or action stagnates. These trivial problems which most couple tend to overlook, will eventually snowball into something bigger which may be detrimental to your relationship down the road. Learn to communicate your thoughts and express your feelings to one another without the fear of being judged or being afraid to lose this person. Instead, focus on what you have to gain through this process and then you will garner the courage to express yourself. Like what your family doctors always say, PREVENTION is better than CURE. So we just want to remind all couples out there to learn to maintain a healthy form of communication throughout your relationship/marriage TODAY! As the saying goes, happy wife happy life! But I’m pretty sure it goes both ways! :D Do stay tune to our next post where we share about “HOW OUR DEEPEST FEARS CAN SABOTAGE OUR RELATIONSHIPS” //Wedding of Willy & Balerie Photographer: @michael_goetomo
It’s been an eventful year back in 2018. Lately, we’ve been busy focusing on our production work that we’ve lost touch with creating contents here for the entire month of December. As our lovely @samantha___zeng has started picking up more wedding shoots throughout the year, we had less time to create valuable contents for our community. And we are truly sorry for neglecting our social media page. However, for what’s coming ahead in 2019 we will set aside time every week to work on our shortcomings and promise to share more contents to help strengthen your relationship with your partner. Our biggest goal here is to see every single one of your marriage blossom. Thank you for all the support throughout our journey. We look forward to helping many more couples in 2019! Just sharing some photographs from one of our couple in December! Captured lots of beautiful emotions on the day! New year resolution, invest more in your marriage than your wedding, and you’ll realize everything else will just fall in place! 😁 HAPPY NEW YEAR! ❤️
LOVE IS AN ACTION NOT AN EMOTION Through it all, we have learned that love is an action word, not a feeling. Love is an act of will, both an intention and an action. True “love” is an act of committed decision-making to extend ourselves and give to another. It is an act of giving and not a feeling. The feeling of falling in love is not real love. It is only the beginning of love. The most sacred thing that we can give another human being is our labor. Your labor is your time, your energy, your creativity, your experience, your intelligence, your vision, your emotion and your ability to take action. It is expression of your spirit and true essence. What you were made to give. //Wedding of Alastair & Lynette Photographer: @michael_goetomo Venue: @interconsin
There is a Chinese saying that goes: “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.” Friends and family often ask me this question, why do you do what you do? And what makes you different from others? Well let us just share a little insight of why we do what we do here in Love Confetti. Why are we here simply because all three of us are deeply in love and passionate about weddings! And what we seek to provide isn’t just a one day service on your wedding day. But rather a life time of companionship throughout your marriage life. Then you must be wondering how are we gonna do it? Well we simply start by using social media as a platform to reinforce you with contents that strengthens your marriage/ relationship. Of course in the long run we hope to provide more ways to value add into your marriage life! We are individuals that constantly seek growth in life, so is the Company! Either we are growing or we are dying, there is no in between. Therefore we want you to join us on this journey and grow along together. It is in that incremental progress, ladies, and gentlemen, where true happiness and satisfaction can be found. We simply need to open ourselves up to the growth mindset to enjoy it. Our heart is filled with tremendous gratitude, to be able to use Love Confetti as a platform to give and spread our love to every couple out there. We are truly grateful for each and everyone of you for supporting us on this little journey for the past three years. We just came back from a company retreat in New Zealand, hope to bring new inspirations to our work! ❤️
Compassvale Road B07- Bus stop, may seem like any other bus stop here in Singapore. But definitely not to this lovely duo. As this was where he always sent her off/ wait for her every other day. Here in Love Confetti, we really hope to capture more images with beautiful meaning behind them so that many years down the road when you look back at these timeless photographs, you will have a story to tell your children on how it all started! ❤️ //Wedding of Brian & Zijia Photographer: @michael_goetomo Venue: Compassvale Road B07 😆
Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won’t be an end. //Wedding of Joey & Xiuxian Photographer: @michael_goetomo Venue: @interconsin
Love can be expressed and received in all five love languages. However, if you don’t speak a person’s primary love language, that person will not feel loved, even though you may be speaking the other four. Once you are speaking his or her primary love language fluently, then you can sprinkle in the other four and they will be like icing on the 🍰 ❤️ // wedding of Joey & Xiuxian Photographer: @michael_goetomo Venue: @interconsin
Our last minute wet weather plan. To shoot in every corner of the hotel! // wedding of Joey & Xiuxian Photographer: @michael_goetomo Venue: @interconsin

 

 

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